Have you ever considered whether your clothes are age appropriate?
“I’m thinking of getting some leather jeans… like Kanye. I figured now’s the time to experiment. I’m getting old, lol. If I don’t do it now, it’ll be too late”
This is how a recent conversation, between a friend and I started. It got us both thinking about how we only have a certain length of time with some pieces of clothing before we have to retire them. When working with guys older than myself, I often get told they don’t want to look like a ‘fashion victim’ or that they’re ‘not interested in the trends’. They’re terrified of being ‘that guy’ that, with out intention, ends up looking juvenile.
No gentleman wants to dress in a way that screams mid-life crisis. Seeing an old guy in leather pants conjures up images of them driving sports cars, rocking pony tails and hanging out at student nights, trying to hook up with a girl young enough to be their daughter!
It’s no surprise then that so many guys end up in faded jeans and leather jackets. The utilitarian uniform for the average joe over 35. If you’re unsure what I mean think of Jeremy Clarkson and for my US readers just check out the picture below.
Understandably, if you’re afraid of being ‘that guy’ then of course you’re not going to take any risks. What’s fashionable and what’s stylish can be, and often are, completely different things. I know that, but many guys don’t. They make the assumption that they’re the same thing. So instead of risking it and getting it wrong they stay middle of the road but end up looking dull and drab.
My friend and I were discussing things that we’ve already retired or will be retiring in the next few years. Hooded sweat tops and trainers are 2 that immediately came to mind and I’m sure they’ll be more as we get on. But we both appreciated that retiring pieces doesn’t signal the end for a dapper gent. Quite the contrary, as both appreciated that great style is ageless.
Our wardrobes just evolve as we grow older. For the guys that feel they maybe stuck with their clothes, afraid of wearing the wrong thing, then you have a few options.
- One thing I’ve found with the guy’s I’ve worked with is they have a fantastic partner or friend that has already been giving them sound advice. They’ve just been afraid to take it. I’d say give them a shot.
- Make a commitment and appreciate you’re going to make mistakes. If you’re dying to ‘be better than the Gap’ and are committed to doing it then you’re going to have to do your homework. These are some great starting points. Appreciate you will get things wrong along the way, but you’re not alone. It goes with the territory, but taking risks leads to stylish rewards.
- Get professional help. Week in, week out I help guys like you that are stuck in a rut with their style. If you’re really sick of your style being dull and boring then either leave me a comment below or drop me an email here.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on growing old and staying stylish from both the ladies and gents.
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