I was reading my twitter timeline the other day when I noticed a link to an article or blog post discouraging women to dress ‘sexy’ for Halloween. My immediate thought upon reading the tweet was “what’s wrong with being sexy?” I can’t find the exact article they were referring to but I wanted to write up a post just to ponder the notion. The first thing I want to clear up from the start is the difference between ‘slutty’ and ‘sexy’. The best way I’ve seen it explained was on a feminist blog which I’ll quote
“If we want to use the word slut, we have to realize that in the context that we ourselves use it, it has more to do with actions, and nothing to do with clothing. And even then, we use the word “slut” to control a woman’s sexuality. It reflects the double standard that men can sleep with how ever many people they want and not be tainted or lose worth but rather gain praise. And yet when a female is very sexual, she loses value, to the point where we shame her, calling her a “slut.”
So coming back to that question what is wrong with ‘sexy’? When I consider some of the most celebrated fashion designers, names like Christian Louboutin, Tom Ford etc Their careers have been based on flattering and celebrating the female form with sexualised silhouettes and design. Tom Ford was celebrated for upping the ante season after season at Gucci when it came to statement sexy pieces. Everyone seems to love Mr Ford, yet if someone was to say the word ‘sex’ and ‘fashion’ I’d instantly think of Tom Ford.
For me the thing about ‘sexy’ clothing is it’s designed to make you feel great. Who doesn’t want to feel sexy when they look in the mirror? Not only that but it empowers women to celebrate and rebel against the restraints society places on women’s bodies. That’s not to say that you can only be sexy when you have flesh on show, but equally why do we ostracise women that do choose to bare a little flesh? After all come fashion week we’ll be tweeting how much of a genius certain designers are, that have collections with both sexy and revealing pieces.
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