“Don’t women dress for attention?”
“No, they dress for other women …”
“Either way it’s attention. They dress for men’s attention to impress other women and to impress the men”
This was a conversation a few of my friends were having on Whatsapp. None of them are particularly interested in fashion, but it came up when they were having a discussion around dating. I won’t bore you with the entire contents of the chat, but it does lead to some interesting questions. One morning when I was in a zen like state, sat on a funky yoga mat with my feet crossed (I only do this on Saturdays before I blog) the following question dawned on me:
Have you ever stopped and pondered exactly who do you dress for?
See, everything I’ve ever read on blogs and in magazines or seen on the television, generally suggested that women dress for other women. But when I think about it, there have been instances in my past where the women I’ve met haven’t conformed to that rule. There’s been other influences in their lives that has effected who they dress for.
You’re probably thinking “the answer is easy I dress for me“.
But is that the case 100% of the time?
When I think about it myself, I know my immediate answer is me. But then if I take a step back and really think about it, I know that’s not the case and it’s definitely not been the case in the past.
There’s been times when I’ve dressed to try and attract the opposite sex, dressed because work expects me in certain attire or dressed because clients expect to see me a certain way. That’s just the tip of the iceberg, there are plenty of other occasions where I’ve dressed for someone else or for a particular group of people.
I think I’ve found the balance now in my own style, where I can say that I seldom dress for others. I think this may have come through growing older, becoming more comfortable with who I am. Defining my style and ultimately being less susceptible to societal pressures.
That’s why it’s important when I work with clients that I don’t just tell them what to wear. It’s a two way street where we learn from one another and build their redefined style around their life, personality and values.
Just before I wrote this post I asked the guys in the group …
Who do men dress for?
Keep an eye on the comments sections where I’ll keep you informed with their answers, though I touched on it in feel the fear and wear it anyway.
I love reading and replying to all my comments and will click through to say ‘hello’ and visit you on your site. I usually end up working with those of you that do comment in some capacity, whether it be a guest post or Google hangout.
So leave a comment below letting me know …
Who do YOU dress for?