I love a motivational speech, I mean who doesn’t like to feel great, and raring to tackle their challenges head on? On Thursday I was treated to a seminar that focused on motivation and public speaking. The presenter did a fabulous job of mixing the usually drab theory with lots of comedic one liners and banterous humour. But one thing he said stood out to me, he talked about how as a nation we absolutely love anything negative. We love a good moan, be it about the weather, the government, our families, and sometimes, even our bodies.
He told us a story about a paper in the US that only featured positive stories… it folded after 9 months of trading.
Now just think about the news for a moment, when was the last time you saw a positive story?
Further still, when was the last time you saw a positive story about body image?
Quite a while I imagine.
Most of us are aware that the glossy magazines and tabloids take great pleasure in picking out the flaws on the often chiseled celebrity bodies. But what does this sort of shaming do to the average person’s psyche when they look in the mirror and see their bodies are far from what’s been showcased in the media?
It can really skew things, so much so that for many they become blinded when they look at their own bodies. They focus on all the things they don’t like about them, because they can’t see the great, often gorgeous bits. But who can blame them thinking like this? After all, we live in a world where people thrive off negativity.
This leaves us at a point where if you compliment a lady on a feature they often play it down. I’ve worked with plenty of women where I’ve pointed out their amazing features and they’ve been totally oblivious to them because for so long they’ve been honing in on the bits they don’t like.
Even the most body confident people will have bits of their bodies they like less than others, but they don’t dwell on those parts. Instead, they celebrate their great bits and show them off, if you’ve got it girlfriend flaunt it! (I’ll stop with the Gok references, I promise).
So start accepting those compliments, look at your bodies and focus on what you really like, it could be a great bust, it maybe luscious long legs, sparkling eyes, slight wrists. Really look in the mirror and pick out the best bits, if you really can’t pick even one then pay attention to when someone pays you a compliment and go with that or ask a friend or your partner.
Then don’t hide your best assets away, celebrate them by wearing clothes that showcase your best bits. Again, if you have a great bust wear tops or dresses that show it off. Great legs? Then make sure we see those amazing pins. Beautiful wrists? Then wear exciting jewellery that draws the eye to them.
Learn to do this and you’ll be on the path not to ok style…but exceptional style.
Why not get started straight away, what’s your best feature?
(photo credits: collegecandy, organicmamacafe, battymamzelle)